Genesis 2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Many never get to experience the true nature of God’s plan for a family unit because partners in relationships are in search of the nature they are accustomed to and to a high degree may never find it.
Transference-is a phenomenon in which one seems to direct feelings or desires related to an important figure in one’s life—such as a parent—toward someone who is not that person.
Many try so hard to change their loved ones into someone else, if they succeed, they actually are together with a stranger because the days of reckoning shall be when the said changed party will stop pretending they changed and manifest their true self and shall clearly be a stranger.
Hebrews 9:16-17
¹⁶For where a testament is, there must also of necessity be the death of the testator. ¹⁷For a testament is of force after men are dead: otherwise it is of no strength at all while the testator liveth.
Numbers 30 tells us of the authority that is to be, either in a Fathers household or a Husbands household.
Many things have been altered by evolving nature of society over the hundreds of the years but our best guide and best bet remains the scriptures of God.
A savior complex-is a psychological attitude where someone feels responsible for helping others, often to an unhealthy degree, believing they are the only ones who can fix a situation or improve someone’s life.
Sometimes instead of trying to fix others, it could help understanding them the way they are and it would possibly be very helpful for some relationships.
Malachi 2:14
Yet ye say, Wherefore?
Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth,
against whom thou hast dealt treacherously:
yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
In abusive relationships, Stockholm syndrome is a complex coping mechanism where a victim develops positive feelings, such as trust or loyalty, toward their abuser as a survival strategy.
Some behavioral culture in society encourages abuse as proof of love ‘atankuba tanjagala’
The problem child has always been seen as the aggressor many times ‘He’ is an endangered specie in the hands of the daughters of Eve.
Understanding Gods order will help many families/relationships become healthy again starting with Agape Love.
Prophetic Utterance:
I will love myself enough to live others,
I will obey Gods order.
I will take care of my household for it is Gods command.
I am steward of my household responsible to God.
Guiding text:
1 Timothy 5:8
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.